External stimulation
Designed for stimulation outside the body. This includes many bullet vibrators, wand-style toys and clitoral stimulators.
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How to Choose a Sex Toy
Not sure where to start? This practical sex toy buying guide helps you compare toy types, stimulation styles, sizes, controls, materials and features so you can choose a product that fits your preferences and experience.
Start with sensationThink about where and how you want stimulation before choosing a particular shape or technology.
Comfort comes firstBigger or more powerful is not automatically better. Choose a size and intensity that feel appropriate for you.
Check the detailsMaterial, dimensions, charging, water resistance and control type can make a big difference in everyday use.
Choosing a sex toy: where to start
You do not need to know every toy type. Answering a few simple questions can quickly narrow down the options.
1
Who is the toy for?
Decide whether you are shopping for yourself, a partner or something designed to use together. This helps narrow the shape, controls and stimulation style.
2
What kind of stimulation do you want?
Consider external, internal, anal, penile, dual or combined stimulation. If you are unsure, a versatile external toy can be an approachable starting point.
3
How much intensity do you prefer?
Some people prefer gentle stimulation and gradual settings; others want deeper or stronger sensations. Adjustable intensity gives you more room to experiment.
4
Where will you use it?
For travel, discreet storage and quiet operation may matter most. For bath or shower use, check the exact waterproof rating. For couples, remote or app control may be useful.
5
Check size, material and features
Read the dimensions rather than judging size from a product image. Also check the material, charging method, controls and care instructions before ordering.
Choose by stimulation type
The most useful way to compare sex toys is often by the sensation they are designed to provide.
Internal stimulation
Internal vibrators and dildos come in different lengths, diameters, shapes and firmness levels. Always check the actual product dimensions.
Explore dildos →Dual stimulation
Dual-stimulation toys are designed to stimulate more than one area at the same time. Rabbit-style vibrators are a common example.
Explore rabbit vibrators →Penis stimulation
Masturbators, strokers and sleeves vary in texture, tightness, shape and technology, from simple manual designs to vibrating or interactive models.
Explore male toys →Anal stimulation
Anal toys include plugs, beads and prostate-focused designs. Products intended for anal use should have a suitable flared base, handle or other retrieval feature.
Explore anal toys →Couples stimulation
Couples toys can be used together and may include wearable designs, remote controls or app connectivity for shared control.
Explore couples toys →Which type of sex toy should I choose?
Use this overview as a starting point, then compare the specifications of individual products.
| Toy type | Best suited to | What to compare |
|---|---|---|
| Vibrators | External, internal or combined vibration | Intensity, patterns, size, shape, noise and controls |
| Clitoral stimulators | Focused external stimulation | Technology, intensity levels, head shape and fit |
| Dildos | Internal stimulation without a motor | Insertable length, diameter, material, firmness and shape |
| Masturbators | Penis stimulation | Texture, opening, size, manual vs powered operation and cleaning |
| Anal toys | Anal or prostate stimulation | Insertable size, shape, progression and safe base/handle |
| Couples toys | Shared or partner-controlled play | Fit, controls, app/remote range and intended use |
Features worth comparing
Two toys that look similar can feel very different in use. These specifications are worth checking before you decide.
Size & dimensions
Check total length, insertable length and diameter where relevant. Product photography can make it difficult to judge scale accurately.
Material
Material affects feel, flexibility and care. Check the product specifications and cleaning guidance before use.
Read Materials & Care →Rechargeable or battery
Rechargeable toys are convenient for regular use, while replaceable-battery products can be useful when charging is not practical.
Water resistance
Waterproof and water-resistant are not necessarily the same. Check the manufacturer's rating before shower, bath or submerged use.
Remote control
A physical remote lets a partner control compatible functions without using the controls directly on the toy.
App control
Compatible app-controlled toys can offer phone-based control and, depending on the product, additional patterns or long-distance functionality.
Choosing your first sex toy
Your first toy does not need the most features. A simple, comfortable product with adjustable settings can make it easier to discover what you enjoy.
A good beginner checklist
- Choose a size that feels approachable rather than simply choosing the largest option.
- Look for adjustable intensity if you are choosing a powered toy.
- Check the dimensions and intended stimulation type.
- Choose controls that you can understand and reach easily.
- Check the material and recommended lubricant.
- Read the cleaning instructions before first use.
- For anal toys, choose a product specifically designed for anal use with an appropriate safe base or handle.
Sex toy buying FAQs
What is a good first sex toy?
There is no single best first toy. A simple external vibrator or another easy-to-control toy with adjustable intensity can be a practical starting point. The right choice depends on the type of stimulation you want.
How do I know what size sex toy to buy?
Use the listed measurements rather than the product photo. For insertable products, compare the insertable length and diameter with a size you already know is comfortable. If you are new to insertion, a more modest size may be easier to start with.
Is an app-controlled toy better than a remote-controlled toy?
Neither is automatically better. A physical remote can be simple and convenient for nearby partner play. An app may offer more functions and, on compatible products, long-distance control. Check the exact features of the individual product.
Should I choose a rechargeable sex toy?
Rechargeable toys can be convenient if you use them regularly and do not want to replace batteries. Battery-operated toys can still be useful for travel or occasional use. Compare runtime, charging time and charging method where these specifications are available.
What should I look for when buying an anal toy?
Choose a product specifically intended for anal use with a flared base, handle or another suitable feature that prevents the toy from being inserted completely. Also consider a comfortable size and use a compatible lubricant.
Which lubricant should I use with a sex toy?
Lubricant compatibility depends on the toy material. Water-based lubricant is commonly suitable for many toys, but always check the manufacturer's instructions. See our Materials & Care guide for more information.
Still not sure what to choose?
Compare the specifications on each product page or contact EroGoods if you need help understanding the size, material, controls or intended use of a product.